Buy these and talk through them. There's also a book that goes with it! When my husband and I first moved in together, we had similar issues. I basically lost my shit. But the good news, we talked it through. I bought these cards and it was pretty helpful and he ended up making great points about what he does and I don't. https://a.co/d/0cJa6x6z Communication and good will is key.
The Fair Play card deck is a game changer for this kind of conversation. At least it was for us! https://www.amazon.com/dp/059323166X?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback
This is a really good tool you and your partner could use to more evenly split labor: https://a.co/d/0dSrVGQJ
