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I'm so sorry for the loss of your best friend and your baby 😞❤️ I'd love to recommend a book by an author whose work has really helped me with deep grief and mourning ❤️❤️❤️❤️ When Your Pet Dies: A Guide to Mourning, Remembering, and Healing by Alan D. Wolfelt The firsts are so very hard. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself during this time. The first days. The first weeks. The first months. Take things one moment at a time. Allow the tears to flow. Share your feelings in writing, write to her and thank her for your life together, tell her what you miss, give that love and grief the space it needs to be felt. Share about her here, like you did just now. Speak aloud to her. Plan time to spend with her doing the things you loved to do. For me, sharing time on the couch watching tv with my kitty Wally, who I had to say goodbye to just about 3 weeks ago now. I also do this with my mom, who I lost about 9 years ago. Sometimes I'll have a movie night with her. It sounds silly maybe, but they are there in those moments. Not the ways we wish most, their physical presence. But I believe if we make space for them, speak with them, tell them how we miss them, they are there, in their way. There are no wrong answers. I don't believe grief lessens over time, but instead I believe our capacity to hold it expands. People may say time heals, but I think what time does is allow us expansion and depth in holding space for those we've lost and the pain of their passing. Sending you love ❤️
You have started a journey that you didn't choose, that will change you, that has already changed you deeply. There's beauty in that wilderness. That part does take time. I don't believe grief lessens over time--instead I believe our capacity to hold it expands. People may say time heals, but I think what time does is allow us expansion and depth in holding space for those we've lost and the pain of their passing. The firsts are so very hard. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself during this time. The first days. The first weeks. The first months. Take things one moment at a time. Allow the tears to flow. Share your feelings in writing. Share them with a dear friend who will listen and hold that space with you. Speak aloud to the one you miss. Plan time to spend with them doing the things you loved to do. For me, sharing time on the couch watching tv with my kitty Wally, who I had to say goodbye to just over 2 weeks ago. They are there in those moments. Not the ways we wish most, their physical presence. But I believe if we make space for them, speak with them, tell them how we miss them, they are there, in their way. There are no wrong answers. Sending you love ❤️ I'd also love to recommend a book by an author whose work has really helped me with deep grief and mourning ❤️❤️❤️❤️ When Your Pet Dies: A Guide to Mourning, Remembering, and Healing by Alan D. Wolfelt