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Cleaner: https://a.co/d/0jbt8u57She needs to wear adult pull-ups. Buy the overnight depends and put those in her underwear drawer. Then you just throw them away (tie them up in a plastic grocery bag and use an outdoor garbage can with a lid and scented trash bag. Any soiled underwear should just be tossed if they are really bad. Buy nitrile gloves and put Carmex lip balm under your nose while you clean up carpet. You can use the bac out enzyme cleaner in a spray bottle to spray carpet, linens, clothes until you can wash them. Let things soak in it and wash clothes with detergent too. If clothes still smell, rewash before drying, as that will only set in the odors and stains. There’s a product called Poof that helps too & powder borax laundry booster. Spray and blot any stain spots on furniture or carpet with paper towels or old rag. Is she still driving? Is she worse during certain times of day? Do you have a neighbor or family member you trust that you can confide in and get help? Do you know her doctor? She might have a UTI (urinary track infection) and need antibiotics. Probably an ER or urgent care visit could help temporarily. But it could be disruptive too if they feel she needs rehab and then you would need another adult depending on what state you are in. This really seems like a crisis though and over your head. Not your fault but it won’t get better without medical intervention if it’s a uti and it could get really worse fast. And seniors don’t always show normal symptoms. Doctors and counselors are mandatory reporters of abuse or neglect, even if it’s due to dementia/illness but hopefully they can get her stabilized so you can remain in your home. Do you drive? Will she go with you to her doctor if you call and get her an emergency sick appointment? You can write a note to doctor to hand them at checkin so you don’t have to talk about her in front of her, if that could cause problems. It’s really too much for you to manage on your own at 17. I’m so sorry. Does she have church friends or anyone you can reach out to? I know it might feel embarrassing, but that’s what friends are for and older adults usually have experience with these types of things. Tell doctor you’ve noticed change in mental state and incontinence/balance. You can call 911 for ambulance if it continues tonight. They can run bloodwork and see what’s going on quicker, get neurology, urine sample, get her cleaned up etc.