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“How to Stop Losing Your Shit with Your Kids” https://a.co/d/0gu1t0qc Hey there, dad! You’re not a bad parent and you’re certainly not the worst. The fact that you want to improve your parenting for your kids’ sake is a great step in overcoming this awful cycle that overtakes us. I’m personally almost a week into having not yelled at all at my child. I’m the wife of a SAHD, and have decided this cannot be how we raise our kid(s). We aren’t physical with her, but the yelling is just too much, and it isn’t even effective. I’ve started calmly explaining what the consequence to not listening will be, and if the behavior continues, I calmly follow through no matter the protest, and offer as much love as possible (and tolerate no physically violent outbursts - the child’s safety is paramount here). I am a safe place for my kid despite me being firm in discipline, and it’s not easy, and I have to step away sometimes to ensure I don’t lose my shit. I have only started the book I linked, but I saw someone on Reddit mention it and I had to get it immediately. I was also hoping/intending for my improved parenting style to inspire my husband to lessen/altogether stop his yelling tendencies, as there are better, more creative, less harmful ways to instill discipline, while centering your relationship with your children around love and safety. Best of luck to you. You can and will do better. Thank goodness you put yourself out there — please never give up on becoming the type of loving parent you want to be. Your children are so worth it.