I totally believe some combo of CBT, exertion, mindfulness works
when you're angry. That kind of habit reprogramming worked for me. (It was really hard to change.)
The other half of the solution is to short-circuit anger, prevent it from even happening.
When Anger Hurts https://www.amazon.com/When-Anger-Hurts-Quieting-Within/dp/1...
TLDR: expectations -> disappointment -> resentment -> blaming -> anger
So the trick is to change your expectations. Not eliminate or lower, exactly. But figuring out how to have realistic expectations. Which stops the anger cascade before it can start.
YMMV. Good luck.
The other half of the solution is to short-circuit anger, prevent it from even happening.
When Anger Hurts https://www.amazon.com/When-Anger-Hurts-Quieting-Within/dp/1...
TLDR: expectations -> disappointment -> resentment -> blaming -> anger
So the trick is to change your expectations. Not eliminate or lower, exactly. But figuring out how to have realistic expectations. Which stops the anger cascade before it can start.
YMMV. Good luck.