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I also recognize at the same time work places, therapies, governments, relationships and everything else in the US will not be compassionate towards trauma based responses so it’s up to me to be compassionate about it and heal them. the world functions with this idea that we should take all the blame (especially if we are poor or a minority etc or faced any type of trauma). In America we publish books like radical responsibility (written by a phd who served ten years in prison). https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Responsibility-Fearlessly-Highest-Unstoppable-ebook/dp/B079GKW7VM I can have more compassion and forgive myself and heal myself but the world isn’t as kind and I don’t expect it to be regarding my issues. I guess I have to keep that in mind and also recognize that in dbt I have to change all I can about myself before asking for changes from the environment is what I was told by a dbt therapist. But I also cant gaslight myself if the situation truly was not my fault at all. I can only change what I’m actually responsible for. It’s difficult because mental health is biopsychosocial as is any health condition that occurs. I try to remind myself that victor Frankl survived the holocaust by changing his psychology so I try all I can to change mine to survive what I’m going through. But I’m also aware CBT is not the therapy for trauma and if I’m ruminating about the past and how it’s affecting me now there need to be modalities to address trauma such as DBT, EMDR, IFS, somatic experience, trauma informed yoga, dance, neurofeedback, expressive therapies, and play therapies. CBT alone has way too many limitations for deeply rooted traumas like the ones you and I have. I wish the majority world, who doesn’t understand this, would address this ignorance since we have to function in a world that doesn’t see or understand trauma aside from a few small pockets of people who get it.