Why Love Hurts: A Sociological Explanation

That's kinda unfair to the incel. (Musk has like 12 kids now, doesn't sound like an incel to me!)

If you are neurodivergent and were bullied in elementary school, dating in high school is a retraumatization where nothing seems possible and you might find that when you "grow up" there aren't any places to meet people your own age (e.g. go to a "rock concert" and you just meet boomers)

Feminist scholar Eva Illouz points out that many women chase men they find "easy to love" who have no interest in committing to them because they don't have to

https://www.amazon.com/Why-Love-Hurts-Sociological-Explanati...

meantime a lot of guys who have challenges get bitter and sucked into toxic social movements.

Also see

https://medium.com/@gettingfrankpodcast/kings-of-the-hill-ho...

and the problem that women often aren't attracted to men who will commit to them until it is too late, see

https://www.amazon.com/Why-Love-Hurts-Sociological-Explanati...