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What about a casual tank dress? Something loose fitting and close to knee length you can wear around the house? Over your clothes. Do you hate this type of casual nightgown / sundress? Is your mother always pushing you to dress this way so you are against it? I have many styles and lengths of sleeveless dresses. They are very handy to throw over my pajamas and run to the store. I have shorter tunics that I wear over leggings, mostly to hide my fat stomach now but before it was to cover my crotch. Maybe just wearing some loose tunic length tops would get your mom to stop bugging you? BUT you do need a direct conversation with your mom. With no one else around to overhear. It might be a 2 part conversation because she might need time to think and reflect on her feelings. Q1: Home is supposed to be safe. Do you think Dad is unsafe? Has he said or done something? Do I look too much like you from before you got married? Basically, you are questioning if your Mom feels it's unsafe for you to be natural and relaxed at home. Q2: Mom's upbringing. Is this the type of stuff you were told growing up? Is this based on old attitudes of women as property and needing to present a certain way? And a conversation about how body shaming has changed things now. Q3: Trama. Is this fear based? Did you deal with unwanted attention, sexual harassment, or sexual assault? Are you trying to protect me from something that happened to you? You really need to listen to understand, especially if she tells you about bad things that happened to her. And try to understand she's afraid for your safety and doing the only thing she knows to do = police your body. Hopefully, after talking you can come to an agreement on how you should dress at home. Go shopping for bras you don't hate the feeling of. Maybe go shopping for what Japanese call "room wear" casual relaxed at home clothes. Lounge wear is the English term, I live in Japan and shop at this website. I've bought some "3 second room one piece" thinking it would be an easy and cheap dress. Oh no, no no no, way too thin for outside the house. (Also too straight for my huge butt, LOL)